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Ben Stein’s 8 Lessons on Love

Ben Stein is a lawyer, writer, actor and economist.

Ben Stein, Love Expert?

Maybe! He published a New York Times article on the economics of love, and it makes a lot of sense.

Here are eight of Stein’s concepts.

1. The returns in love situations are roughly proportional to the amount of time and devotion invested. The amount of love you get from an investment in love is correlated, if only roughly, to the amount of yourself you invest in the relationship.

2. High-quality bonds consistently yield more return than junk, and so it is with high-quality love. Stay with high-quality human beings. And once you find you that are in a junk relationship, sell immediately. Junk situations can look appealing and seductive, but junk is junk.

3. Research pays off. The most appealing and seductive exterior can hide the most danger and chance of loss. For most of us, diversification in love, at least beyond a very small number, is impossible, so it’s necessary to do a lot of research on the choice you make. 

4. In every long-term romantic situation, returns are greater when there is a monopoly. If you have to share your love with others, if you have to compete even after a brief while with others, forget the whole thing.

5. The returns on your investment should at least equal the cost of the investment. If you are getting less back than you put in over a considerable period of time, back off.

6. Long-term investment pays off. The impatient day player will fare poorly without inside information or market-controlling power. To coin a phrase: Fall in love in haste, repent at leisure.

7. Realistic expectations are everything. If you have unrealistic expectations, they will rarely be met. If you think that you can go from nowhere to having someone wonderful in love with you, you are probably wrong.

8. When you have a winner, stick with your winner. Whether in love or in the stock market, winners are to be prized.

Stein’s combination of love and economics in such a simple, succinct article is inspired.

For more, please read the full article:
http://www.nytimes.com/2008/07/13/business/13every.html?em&ex=1216180800&en=313397ee5ad38176&ei=5087%0A

How to Find Your Soulmate

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A soulmate is that special person, who thinks like you, feels about things as you do, and just understands you. You each are special to each other, and can sense each others pain or happiness. Each one is more complete as a person with the other. There is a chemistry between you, that makes each day, a happier one because the other is there with you. Holding hands with each other makes you feel warm and content and complete as a person.

  Steps

1. Meet and talk to them. Share thoughts about many things, and listen to see how they react and appear.
2. Find out if you both enjoy the same or similar activities, and discuss your thoughts about them.
3. Sense the physical as well as the mental connection between you. Listen to each other, and hold hands when walking in the mall, or the store, or in the park. If you feel that you really connect without any effort, then you have found your soulmate.
4.   Remember, a true soulmate can sense your pain before you do, they can sense your thoughts, feelings, and seem to be a part of you, and you have to wonder, how you ever faced each day without them.

  Tips

• Do not confuse physical chemistry between both of you, as being a soulmate. While one can be the other, the chances are if you only feel a physical attraction, and no mental connection, they are not soulmates.
• Finding a true soulmate does not happen all the time. The connection is so special and so endearing, that you will know when it does.
• Don't look for qualities in a soulmate that will 'complete' you. No one else should be able to complete you, you are you by yourself. What they do instead is add to your life, and make it richer and fuller, more than anything else.
• When you find your soulmate, try not to freak out. Its supposed to be!

  Related wikiHows

• How to Know the Difference Between Love, Infatuation and Lust
• How to Determine if the One You Love Loves You
• How to Know Whether You're Really Compatible
• How to Tell if It's an Acquaintance, Friend, Crush, or Love
• How to Show Someone That They Are Loved
• How to Get a Man to Marry You

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Orienting Your Life Around Your Values

"Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds from the
achievement of one's values."  - Ayn Rand

Would you like to know the secret to happiness? 

Do you want the key to living a life of joy and fulfillment? 

It's simple!  The greatest sense of happiness, joy and fulfillment
comes from living in alignment with your values.

"What do you mean by values?" you may ask.  Well, they are those
qualities that excite and energize you most in life.  They exist
within your core.  You don't really choose them.  You can't pick
them out and try them on for size.    Instead, you discover what
values already exist within you and, if you're wise, you embrace
them and let them inform your life.  They're neither positive nor
negative in and of themselves, but they turn you on and make you
feel alive.

Focus on Your Strengths, Manage the Weaknesses

"Do not try to teach a pig to sing---it wastes your time and
annoys the pig"

All too often we spend a lot of our resources on improving our
weaknesses through therapy, self help books, workshops and
seminars and completely overlook our brilliance, gifts and
strengths.

We fail to realize that we are all gifted with natural strengths,
and talents.

Imagine if we put the same energy that we have used to strive,
improve, or push ourselves to overcome our weakness into
developing our natural strengths and gifts.

If you concentrate on your "weaknesses", you are going to
struggle. If you concentrate on your strengths, you are going to
succeed.

 

Conscious Dating Tele-gathering

You're invited to listen to a replay of a FREE "Single to Soul Mate"
tele-seminar. 

You'll learn:

What you can do when single to prepare for the life and
relationship you want

How to save your next relationship before it starts

How singles can use Conscious Dating principles and strategies
to find the love of your life

And much more!

Click the link below to listen or download:
http://instantTeleseminar.com/?eventid=1861302

Single on Valentine's Day?

What do you do if you are single on Valentine's Day?
Why you do something loving for yourself, of course.
What have you been putting off buying yourself as a small luxury?
Why wait any longer? You know you deserve it, and loving yourself
is the first step towards a healthy, loving relationship.

Remember, You aren't the only person coping with being single on
Valentine's Day, so why not find some other singles and do something
different?

Perform random acts of kindness by giving out Valentine's Day cards
to friends and family, even complete strangers.

Invite a bunch of friends over for a singles night full of Valentine's Day
themed potluck and board games.

Single for the Holidays?

Being single during the holidays can be a lonely time or it can be a wonderful time to expand your circle of friends and possibly meet your soul mate. It takes a little forethought and being proactive.

Here are a few tips to get you started.

100 Dating Conversation Starters

Here's a list of some good questions to help you open conversations

and learn more about a  potential partner.

Send me your favorites.

Link: 100 Dating Conversation Starters by TJ Smith.

25 Ways to Find a Date Offline

Men and women frequently ask me "Where can I meet a potential partner?"
After reading the article linked below, send me your comments about the best ways you've found to  meet someone.

Link:
25 Ways to Find a Date Offline - Dumb Little Man.

Attraction: How to Know if Someone Likes You Romantically

My clients ask me "how do you tell if someone is interested in you romantically?"

There are certain behaviors and body language that will telegraph romantic interest. Sometimes these signs are subtle but if you're aware of them you'll be able to detect interest and respond accordingly.

The article below contains some tips to help you.

How do you detect romantic interest?
Let me know what you think by commenting in the space below.

Link: How to Know if Someone Likes You Romantically | eHow.com.